Sunday 11/25/07 11:30 am eastern time
sitting on the rv right now on the way to North Hampton, Massachusetts. haven’t written in awhile, been writing more songs than blogs. lots of stupid things have been going on, but i’m trying to stay positive, bc thats all you can really do…saw a line today that made me laugh though…said something like “no regrets, only lessons learned”…i just found that funny…i have plenty of regrets in my life…alot of those mistakes that led to those regrets i wish never happened and knew the lesson before it was learned the hard way…i guess what i’m trying to say is i think that line is a load of shit…maybe its just me…maybe i’m the only one who wishes there were no regrets period…and maybe i’m one of the only people that would rather learn a lesson without making a mistake to learn it…make sense? no? k, nevermind then
we played in New Hampshire the other night, and afterwards stayed with an old friend of mine (drummer in an old band) in Boston. I’d never been to that city before, but realized that night and the next morning that its definitely the most beautiful city I’ve been too…just the landscape, the buildings, the people, everything seems refreshing…i just hate the cold ass weather…i’m thinking about going up there and just staying a couple of weeks on vacation early next year just because…get a hotel for a couple of weeks, and just write…thats all i’ve been doing lately is writing…i’m finding out alot about myself through some of the new stuff i’m writing…sounds weird, but its true…when i sit down with pen and paper, usually i have no secrets by the end of whatever i’m writing
we only have six shows left, and then I think I may be going to Canada for a couple of weeks…that should be cool…Christmas is one month from today, and I realized I don’t really have a Christmas tree this year…i already know what this Christmas is gonna feel like, but like i said, try to stay positive, right?
everyone please keep Hawthorne Heights and the family of Casey Calvert (one of their guitarists) in your thoughts and prayers…Casey was found dead yesterday before they had soundcheck, I can’t even begin to imagine what they’re going thru…we’re definitely thinking about those guys
just know that I love you all…at the end of everyday, we’re very thankful for all of you…each and every single one of you…
“I let you down, but you pulled me under”
until next time, love to you all
<3
nixon
Of course I’m the first one to comment because I have no life and I’m always online, lol. Yeah…. that completely makes sense and I totally agree. I’ve regretted EVERY mistake I’ve made in my life and I too knew the lesson before it was learned the hard way.
I’m glad you are writing. I can’t wait to hear some new songs. I know they will be amazing. You are so talented. “I let you down, but you pulled me under”…. new lyrics to a song?
I’ve been meaning to go to Boston for, well forever. I should probably get off my lazy arse and take the weekend trip up already.
I agree with you on the mistakes made/regrets/lessons learned. The quote is complete shite, people hardly learn the lessons from their mistakes, and why, because they’re too busy making their next mistake. Not saying that you’re one of those people, but you know. Another one that annoys me is ‘Never regret anything, because at one time it was what you wanted.’ It’s just really ignorant in my opinion.
I’m with you on Christmas, I’m not putting up a tree or anything and attempting to avoid it.
Anyways, I hope you enjoy Canada, and Boston early next year.
What about: “Make it a rule of life never to regret and never to look back. Regret is an appalling waste of energy, you can’t build on it. It’s only good for wallowing in.” -Katherine Mansfield
Maybe that’s a better quote. Why should we regret what we can’t change? What will regretting do? it won’t change a thing. Instead we need to admit, “I fucked up. Atleast I know not to do that anymore.” It’s how we learn our limits.
I think that we should use our energy for more positive things instead of wasting it on something that will still exist, no matter what we do. We can’t beat ourselves up over the mess ups we have made…
I think as human beings we have a tendency to hold grudges. When we are hurt, we usually want the people who have hurt us to hurt more than we do. But isn’t that a bit selfish?
Maybe you should just forgive her and move on…if not for her, than atleast do it for you. Forgiveness sets you free.
“Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved.” -Barbara Johnson
hey,
I’ve been reading this lately,
ive realized your a very deep person lately.
and i love reading your different views and opinions.
it makes me think.
and not alot of people can make me think.
i don’t like to brag.
but id say im a pretty deep person as well.
anyway back to the point.
i agree with you while disagreeing.
yea learning a lesson without makeing regrets would be amazing.
but making those regrets form who we are.
hell if yo could sum up my life in one word it be
“regret”
but to tell you the truth
im glad ive made mistakes regrets and stupid descicions.
because i wouldn’t be the deep,emotional,thoughtful person i am today if i haven’t learned the things ive learned.
we do learn from our mistakes.
even though it hurts.and it does hurt.
its better in the long run.
i havent talked to you in forever bro,
you should message me sometime.
i miss you.
love,
James
Boston! I’ve always wanted to go there. But I think in the summer. I’m not fond of being cold either. And Canada in the winter?? You’re officially crazy.
Nixon.. sorry to hear things aren’t as good as usual, but it’s nice that you can channel all of that into something you’re great at, writing. I’m hoping things will start looking up for you, but like you said you’re trying to do, stay positive.
And, enjoy the rest of the tour.
RIP Casey Calvert
<3
Nixon.. You bring up alot of good points.. I see it in several different ways. While I prefer to not make mistakes to learn lessons, I’ve found that, without making those mistakes, I wouldn’t be strong enough later on to face other obstacles. While right now, it might not seem possible, it could be what saves you down the road. That’s what happened with me…
But, stay positive. You’re totally right. Everyone has their own personal struggles to deal with, but that’s part of living.. Either you learn to cope and move on, or you get left behind.
Definitely take time to go to Boston. It’s my favorite city in the entire world.. I’m going up in a couple of weeks, and I couldn’t be more excited.
Take care of yourself.. God bless, and have a good time in Canada.
heyy you know the saying if you love something enough let it go if it comes back it was yours in the first place if i doesnt it was never ment to be.Thats kinda what life is like you let things go sometimes its a mistake somtimes its not but in order for you to know what you need to know and not just sit around and wait for the answer sometimes you have to take risks and make mistakes but thats life no one is perfect and were all human.Really excited for your knew music lol and the next time you guys are on tour haha i wont be so shy and i will be supppp! hahahaha
Nixon,
I completely see where you’re coming from.
It seems so much less complicated to just skip the “making a mistake” process and just get straight to the lesson-learning.
As I’ve been reading your blogs, I’ve noticed that you’re a very sincere and theoretical person.
You think things through and rationalize situations the way that I only dream I could. You’re music, as well as your randomness of blogs, makes me realize many things.
I can sit in my room for hours just screaming out the lyrics to Framing Hanley’s songs, and while screaming, it makes me think about what the words really mean (well at least what I think they mean).
You’re a very deep person and I love reading your writing: If it’s a song or blog.
Keep up the good work..even though it seems like you don’t even try. :]
Peace and love.. <3
Ashleigh